It can be so frustrating to see things that are so obviously triggers or patterns of habit that can lead to acting out.
For example, my husband loves keeping up with the news. I don't have a particular problem with that. I check the news online too. But where it gets frustrating is when repeatedly there is a link on CNN that is clearly going to lead to somewhere not good. (Since when does anything with the word "topless" need to be headline news?)
When he looks at the news at home, half the time CNN is blocked by the filter. Which is frustrating, I know. I get sites blocked all the time when I am trying to do regular things on the computer. It's definitely annoying.
So he is having a stressful day at work and needs to relax for a minute . . . so he goes to CNN. And clicks on a link. To me, I feel like it should be so obvious that he shouldn't ever look at CNN at work. #1 - there is no filter at work. The filters are there for his protection, which he asked us to put on our computers at home. And #2 - it's at work! So if he's going to get in trouble for looking at inappropriate things on a computer, I'd rather it not result in him losing his job as well.
The co-dependent me wants to show him how destructive it can be to "just check out the news for a minute." Sadly, we live in a world where that isn't innocent. The not co-dependent me, well I'm not sure what she would do. I haven't actually said anything to him about it, but it doesn't mean I haven't played out the conversation in my head about 20 times.